Why Men Suck At Dating

Authored by Robert Lee of alovelinksplus.com, based on the concepts of Christian Carter’s “Catch Him and Keep Him” ebook

It comes as no surprise that women and men are wired differently.
It also comes as no surprise that women and men react differently.
The biggest surprise, however, is that women and men get together at all!

Men are really bad at dating, most men anyways, because their wiring is all crossed up. If it’s not “love at first sight” where they are so gushy, clingy and utterly revolting, then they are “attraction beasts” that need to be tamed, toned down and retrained to behave like a real person.

When a man’s “Attraction and Interest meter” is triggered to high levels, he’s going to be able to approach you. He will begin or join conversations that involve you, that you can be a part of, with him. From these first moments of his “attraction” springs your own “Attraction and Interest meter” into action. But not at the same levels! That almost never happens right off the bat. So don’t force it!

If you are going to find the right man, bind him to you and help him to realize (supposedly on his own) that you are the right long-term relationship in his life, what do you need to do?

First off: avoid the adolescent type. You’ve met him before. Maybe back in elementary or high school. He’s the guy that told all his friends how much he loved you before he ever spoke to you. Maybe he’s the guy that sent you a gift or a letter to get your attention and when you accepted it he didn’t have anything more to say. He “gushed out” and hid back in his hole of adoration for you. If he did manage to get closer to you he held on for dear life. Needing to be in a constant form of contact with you and he burned himself out. And you tired of him so quickly that you can barely now remember him. Now at this age you’ll find him to be the guy that needs to know your every move. Tries to pick and choose your friends. Always makes it a “me or nothing” argument with you. Avoid him, dump him if you’ve got him.

Secondly: avoid the “over-the-top” type. This is Mr. Fantastic “because he says so”. He wants to date you so he looks better to his peers. He really is almost a border sociopath, so into himself that your real needs for security, intimacy and trust are never met by him. You’ve seen this type. You know them. Now you need to avoid them.

Thirdly: look for the “trust factor” in the guys you meet. You can’t easily recognize this in guys but it becomes quickly evident when you are looking for the “trust factor” in them. Their body language tells you that they feel secure with you. Conversations flow, no awkward pauses and he listens to you speak instead of monopolizing the conversation. He “trusts” you to be on the same level as him and he wants you to participate with him. These are the guys that you can feel good about dating. To be able see where they are in their emotional life.
Is he stable? Good life prospects? Not carrying any baggage?
His conversational mood will tell all. And surprisingly, instinctively, you’ll feel safe with him and usually fantasize about a future together. Keep talking with him. Date him. Sure, he’ll likely still need a little molding, some small efforts on your part will help him to see the future.

Remember, the guy you see is usually the guy you get. You may be able to make small changes but not big ones. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can. It’s the road to disaster that many women make.

Men suck at dating and usually need encouragement to make the introductory steps so you can actually start dating. Keep your perspective and don’t match his anxiousness but understand his nervousness and look for the “trust factor” so that you can understand him on a level he understands. With the “trust factor” found within his actions and conversation and body language towards you, you can match his perspective in a way to understand him. And understand how the two of you will become a future or not.

Start finding the right man to date, not the man of “right now” but the man of “right mind”.
Download the ebook here and start reading into your own future.

And if you’re not sure, take the next step and read more about “Catch Him and Keep Him”, it’s not convincing that’ll help you to decide to download the “Catch Him and Keep Him” ebook, it’s conviction. A certain step to a more successful future with the next man you date or the man you’re dating now.
Start here.

To your future,
Robert Lee

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