For some of us, new relationships come with a sense of urgency. We’re eager to reach the next big milestone, especially as we get older. This same feeling of immediacy can cause us to push too hard or come on too strong, putting a strain on the fragile bonds formed in the early days. If you’ve ever been accused of being too intense, here are some tips to ensure that your next relationship isn’t smothered in its infancy.
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It is understandable that first kisses, whether it be your very first kiss or a first kiss with someone, makes you anxious and nervous. After all, there are so many different ways to kiss, so many different types of kisses, and everybody has a different kissing style. I inform my readers to just relax and go with the flow, but that is sometimes easier said than done. After all, the unknown is always scary, right?
I usually discuss how to kiss on my site Sheila’s Kissing Booth. How to use your tongue, which way to move your mouth, etc. Today, I’m going to discuss what NOT to do during a kiss. Whether it be your first kiss or you’ve done it before, these are guidelines to live by when it comes to a memorable kiss.
- Don’t eat garlic, onions, curry, or any other food or condiment that will overpower your breath. Even a breath mint won’t help you there.
- Make sure you use deodorant. And don’t go heavy on the cologne or perfume. You are going to be close to this person so you don’t want to leave a lasting impression of your body odor.
- Don’t wear lipstick or freshly applied lipstick. Nothing worse than leaving a colored smear on and around your guy’s mouth. Not to mention it will smudge all over yours.
- Don’t jam your tongue down their throat. A little tongue is fine. Too much is choking.
- Don’t move your tongue really fast inside their mouth. Be playful with your tongue. Move it slowly.
- Don’t have a mouthful of spit in your mouth. Swallow just before the kiss and even during the kiss. Nothing worse than slobber.
- Don’t chew gum or have a mint in your mouth.
- Don’t smoke before the kiss.
- Don’t hold your breath. Breathe during the kiss.
- Don’t grope.
- Don’t bite. Some people have sensitive lips and tongue.
- Don’t tighten your lips. Keep them relaxed.
- Don’t move too fast. Keep it nice and slow.
Most of these are common sense tips. Some aren’t. You want to make the kiss memorable so keep the above list in mind and you’ll knock them dead with a fabulous kiss.
Sometimes in life we hit a bump. Sometimes they are large bumps. Sometimes these bumps are so large they seem like a mountain. The thing with bumps in our lives, especially with our relationships, is that some of them we can see coming and some of them we can’t. The key to getting over these bumps successfully is to take a hard look at how we came to this bump, and what WE can do to overcome it.
The first thing you need to do is to think about how you got to this place. Was it an ongoing issue that keeps repeating itself? Or is it the first time you’ve come to this bump in the road? What exactly happened that lead you to where you are?
The second thing you need to do is to focus on how you reacted to it. Not in how the other person reacted, but how YOU reacted to it. This is difficult, but you must be objectionable. Take your emotions and feelings out of the equation.
The third thing you need to do is really get in touch with your feelings. This is the hardest part of all. Why do you think you reacted/behaved the way you did? What underlying feelings were going on. Once you figure that out, be honest with yourself. Why do you think you felt that way? Why do you think you reacted the way you did? Are they valid? Or are they just a past issue/experience that triggered this emotion? Once you realize the reason you thought this way then you are ready for change.
I am not saying that you have to change yourself for anybody. You have to be true to yourself. You have to remove the negative and work on the positive. Changing yourself has to be done in a positive, loving way. Changing yourself for a relationship means changing yourself into something that you aren’t. You want to remain yourself, yet remove the negativity that is affecting your life. In other words, change your negative thoughts and feelings and turn them into positive ones.
Once you can build a better relationship with yourself, only then will you see CHANGES in your relationship. Your partner will see these changes in you and it will reflect back on the way he behaves. If not, maybe the relationship is not worth being in at all, but by then you know that you have done everything you can. And with this knowledge, move ahead into a more fulfilling relationship.
Work on yourself first… then your relationship. Only then will you see true, honest, and fulfilling changes.